Social Intelligence

How well do you connect with others? We generally think pretty good of ourselves and at first glance you may give yourself a pretty high score.  While there is no test you can take to compare your results to mine, the way you connect with others can have a profound influence in the workplace and we are each judged by the people we come in contact with.  Our guest in this episode, Linda Groszyk, talks with us about some of the ways social intelligence can impact us, how we can get better at it and who we can reach out to if we need help.

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January 11th 9:00am to 4:00pm
Residence Inn, Murfreesboro, TN

Episode Quotes

“I like to sum it up as “social intelligence means having people smarts”.

“If it doesn’t come intuitively, and it’s not something that your brain is really wired to do, or your brain makes it a little bit harder for you to do, then you really do have to put more focus and energy on being self-aware, having situational awareness and making behavioral adjustments.”

“People with social intelligence have this awareness of the impact that their behaviors have on others and they’re aware of the emotional ripple or the emotional effect that what they say and do, how that is going to make other people feel.”

Listen to Learn

00:40     Intro
01:24     Compañero Shout-Outs
02:20     Zero to Dashboard Hero in Nashville, Tennessee on Jan 11th
03:32     What Have I Learned
05:36     SQL Server in the News
07:07     Intro to the panel, guest and topic
09:01     What is social intelligence and why are we talking about it on this podcast?
12:34     The benefit of increasing our social intelligence
13:30     Carlos does a little experiment
15:35     People connect well with others who listen and obviously care
18:25     How can we improve our own social intelligence?
20:07     Why people seek help with their social intelligence
23:11     Different people need different degrees of feedback to be aware of social intelligence issues
25:42     Workplace culture can also play into social intelligence
28:55     Social intelligence and the autism spectrum
32:29     Examples of goals and some reasons people might seek Linda or someone like her out
36:29     Advice for those who get promoted to management positions and need to become more socially aware
38:08     How to connect with Linda Groszyk
39:14     SQL Family Questions
43:48     Closing Thoughts


Music for SQL Server in the News by Mansardian

Our Guest

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Linda Groszyk

Linda Groszyk is a Social Cognitive Specialist who provides individualized coaching and consultation services for people to improve their social communication, emotional intelligence, and executive functioning skills for professional, personal, and social growth.

Linda has developed her expertise over the past 18 years as a speech-language pathologist, social cognitive specialist, and accent
reduction coach.

Linda integrates frameworks and strategies rooted in social learning, cognitive behavioral therapy and executive functioning management to help people increase their self-awareness, navigate the social world, and improve their organizational thinking. She recognizes that successful and lasting behavior change is not an easy task. Therefore, building relationships and working in partnership with her clients are paramount to her coaching process.

Linda is originally from the East Coast and currently resides in San Francisco.

Meet the Hosts

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Carlos Chacon

With more than 10 years of working with SQL Server, Carlos helps businesses ensure their SQL Server environments meet their users’ expectations. He can provide insights on performance, migrations, and disaster recovery. He is also active in the SQL Server community and regularly speaks at user group meetings and conferences. He helps support the free database monitoring tool found at and provides training through SQL Trail events.

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Eugene Meidinger

Eugene works as an independent BI consultant and Pluralsight author, specializing in Power BI and the Azure Data Platform. He has been working with data for over 8 years and speaks regularly at user groups and conferences. He also helps run the GroupBy online conference.

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Kevin Feasel

Kevin is a Microsoft Data Platform MVP and proprietor of Catallaxy Services, LLC, where he specializes in T-SQL development, machine learning, and pulling rabbits out of hats on demand. He is the lead contributor to Curated SQL, president of the Triangle Area SQL Server Users Group, and author of the books PolyBase Revealed (Apress, 2020) and Finding Ghosts in Your Data: Anomaly Detection Techniques with Examples in Python (Apress, 2022). A resident of Durham, North Carolina, he can be found cycling the trails along the triangle whenever the weather's nice enough.

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